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Imagine you are in love with someone. In this special phase you may perceive the world with an excessively optimistic perspective, or through “rose-tinted glasses.” All gestures and gazes from the object of desire are interpreted as interested, intentional and confirmative although someone without these “glasses” might evaluate the same actions completely differently. It is important to be aware of this, and to “take off” those distorting glasses to regain a clear and objective view.
In regard to sexual assault, mental biases can cause one to shift responsibility from the offender to the victim. If someone abuses a child sexually, those mental biases are actively taking effect before, during and after the assault takes place. These justifications may proceed as follows: “The child wants to experience his/her sexuality the same way as adults do,” “If the child does not resist, he/she must want it,” and “This was the last time.” If you do not succeed in recognizing and modifying those mental biases, you run the risk to (re)commit a sexual assault.
Think about a situation in which you were at high risk to commit an assault or in which you had already committed a sexual assault. Then use the following outline to evaluate yourself: