Attracted to children?
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Human sexuality is characterized by a wide variety of sexual preferences. Each individual has specific erotic particularities that are realized first as fantasies and sometimes later as urges that develop into behaviours. Sexual preference of any kind is predetermined and not chosen; nobody gets to decide his or her own sexual orientation.
Troubled Desire offers internet-based self-management for people who feel attracted to children and early adolescents and do not have the opportunity to interact with therapists. When possible, contact with a therapist will be arranged. The self-management tool as well as contact with a therapist are assured to be confidential and anonymous.
Together we would like to alleviate the distress experienced by those with paedophilic inclinations and ultimately prevent child sexual abuse and the use of child abuse images.
What best describes your concern?
- Most likely I'm myself attracted to children.
- Most likely I know someone with a sexual interest in children.
- I am a health care professional interested in information.
If you are healthcare professional interested in contributing to helping people with a sexual preference for children, please feel free to contact us.
We would like to ask you some questions about your education, family, profession and contact situations with children. Please answer all questions full to customize our approach and give you constructive personal feedback
We would like to ask you some questions about your sexual fantasies. Sexual fantasies are an important source of information. Please answer all questions full to customize our approach and give you constructive personal feedback.
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We would like to ask you some questions about your sexual and non-sexual behaviour. Please answer all questions full to customize our approach and give you constructive personal feedback.
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We will give you a personal feedback about your sexual preference and your problematic sexual behaviour.
We will take a closer look at the building blocks of sexual preference structure and gain insight into the colourful world of sexual desires, including your own.
As soon as there is more than one person engaged in a sexual activity it must be based on mutual agreement. We will discuss the matter of informed consent in terms of problematic sexual activities.
We will examine myths (false assumptions) and facts (true findings) about love, sexuality and children experiencing assaults with the aim of dispelling false assumptions.
If someone looks at something through rose-tinted glasses, they see only the pleasant parts of it. We will go through a situation and discover how our thoughts are able to manipulate the experience of reality.
Those searching for the cause will discover that there are, in fact, mulitple causes... We will discuss the causes for having one sexual preference or another and gain insight on how to make sense of each one.
Acceptance is not for granted. It's acquired by knowledge. We will convey an understanding of the importance of acceptance and try to apply this knowledge to our sexual preference.
Time management issues, recurring headaches, work stress or persistent fantasies about children can easily engross us or throw us off track. We will look at a relaxation technique that will enable us to more easily master daily challenges.
We will explain the importance of differentiating between fantasy and behaviour. By gaining a deeper understanding of our own sexual fantasies and behaviours we will be able to improve impulse control pertaining to these sexual desires.
We will take a closer look at ourselves and our inner processes. The goal is to identify unfavourable sexual behaviour and potential adverse situations, and to learn how to intervene at an early stage by disciplining thoughts and feelings.
The risk to commit a sexual assault or to use child sexual abuse images is not always the same, but rather is dependent on certain conditions. We will learn to identify those “triggers,” i.e. factors that increase the risk of fantasies becoming behaviour.
We will examine what happens before, during and after the use of child abusive images or a child sexual assault in order to establish behavioural control mechanisms at the earliest stage.
One… two… three pieces of chocolate… while dieting? Sometimes it can be very difficult to control our impulses. Here we will look at the importance of impulse control and try to find ways to improve it during our daily life.
Whether we see joy or grief, we humans are capable of taking the perspective of others. We will take a closer look at the ability to take another’s perspective and will discover how this ability helps us to navigate our social surroundings.
Child sexual offending dramatically affects the emotional and physical health of the victims. Here, we go through the letter of a victim of childhood sexual abuse and address the consequences of that experience.
Some people experience sexual desires or fantasies that are too intense, not manageable and cause marked distress. For those people, we will give an overview of taking medication as an additional valuable option.
In order to live a good life and maintain our well-being we must respect and care for our individual needs. Therefore we will provide a brief guide and read the story of a young man who was able to do this by understanding and overcoming his negative behaviours.